Characteristics That Mentally Tough People Have

If you want to be physically strong, you go to the gym, lift weights, play sports, or go for a run. You work hard and put in the effort. The same holds true if you want to be mentally strong—only instead of working out at the gym, you exercise your mind.

There are small steps you can take every day to make sure that your brain is performing at top speed. Keep reading to find out what characteristics you need to develop to be a mentally tough person.

You Can Balance Your Logical Side And Your Emotional Side

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Balance really is the key to living a full and successful life. If you deny your emotional side, your personal relationships will suffer, and if you deny your logical side, your professional relationships will suffer.

You Have Good Time Management Skills

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Everybody wants to do it all, but doing it all isn’t easy. Do whatever it takes to make sure you have enough time in your day for everything you want to accomplish. Make a schedule, set reminders on your phone, and stick to your plans.

You Can Adapt Well To Change

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Change is inevitable, so it makes sense that the most successful people are the people who can adapt in the face of ever-changing circumstances. Change is hard, but the faster you learn to accept it, the better.

You Face Your Fears

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Whether you’re afraid of heights, public speaking, or clowns, the best thing you can do for your mental well-being is to face your fears head-on. It never pays to live in fear.

You Learn From Your Mistakes

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People aren’t perfect. We make mistakes. The worst mistake you could possibly make is not learning from your mistakes. Turn your missteps into opportunities for growth. Learn from the past in order to move forward.

You Separate Your Identity From Your Ideal Self

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There’s a difference between who you are now and who you want to be. Sure, we’d all like to be perfect versions of ourselves, but the best way to get close to that ideal is to recognize our own flaws.

You Are Excited About The Success Of Others

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Jealous people never win. Genuinely celebrate the successes of others, because a rising tide lifts all ships. There is enough success to go around. Somebody else’s victories don’t detract from you or your efforts in any way.

You Stay True To Your Values

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Whatever your values are, it’s important to stay true to them. Don’t compromise on who you are and what you believe to be important to impress anybody. Only you know what is acceptable for you.

You Value Yourself

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Self-esteem and self-confidence are essential. Place value on yourself as a person, not just on what you have managed to achieve. You are more than your accomplishments and your milestones.

You Are Patient

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Good things come to those who wait, and everything good in life is worth waiting for. Being mentally strong means that you know that success often comes after a long wait.

You Take Responsibility For Your Actions

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You don’t make excuses or try to pass the blame onto somebody else. You know when you mess up, and you work hard to correct your mistakes. You are self-aware and responsible.

You Turn Challenges Into Opportunities

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When faced with a challenge, you don’t shrink away or become overwhelmed. You develop a plan to attack the challenge and use it to personally level-up. Each challenge is an opportunity to grow.

You Are Thankful

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Successful and mentally strong people know that they have so many people and opportunities to be thankful for. They never take anything or anybody for granted. You recognize what you have, and you don’t complain about what you don’t have.

You Stick To Your Strengths

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You focus on what you know best and advise others when asked. You know where your strengths lie, and you use your strength to your advantage. You don’t waste your resources on something you don’t know anything about.

You Know How To Pick Yourself Up

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When you are having a down day (or a down week), you know exactly what to do to pick yourself back up again—whether that’s taking a long walk, making yourself a healthy snack, or taking a meditation break.

You Know What Motivates You

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You are keenly aware of your motivations and what drives you to succeed, whether that’s a desire to be recognized for your achievements or a desire to be helpful and helped in return.

You Ask For Help When You Need It

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You aren’t afraid to reach out for help or support when necessary. We all need a shoulder to lean on or expert advice every now and then. Needing help isn’t a sign of weakness.

You Lead By Example

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You know that the best way to lead any team or group is to be an example of strength and resilience. You show people, rather than tell them, what’s expected of them.

You Focus On The Positive While Remaining Realistic

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Many mentally strong people are optimistic, but blind optimism can get you in trouble. It’s a good practice to hope for the best while preparing for the worst. Have a plan, but stay positive.

You Readily Give Compliments

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Don’t be stingy with your compliments. They are absolutely free! Everyone loves to hear what you genuinely appreciate about them, whether it’s their fashion choices, their resilience, or their kindness.